Spouse - Sex = Infidelity. Really?

If only it was possible to reach thru the radio and smack the woman who had called in. Aarrggghhhhhh! Her quote and let me give it to you verbatim .. "If the wife wasn't giving it to her husband then yea there is no wrong in him looking for it elsewhere" And she goes on to liken it to being the same as if the wife was not cooking at home then it was fine to go eat elsewhere. Which planet did she drop out of and how in blazes to do you compare eating out at a restaurant and cheating ?!?


Am I fuming? If only you could see the smoke coming out of my ears. What brought this all on? The always engaging DJ who asked his listeners for their opinion on what Silda Spitzer had said (another verbatim quote) "On some level, this is my fault. the wife is supposed to take care of the sex. This is my failing. I wasn't adequate". Good gawd woman!
Her husband, Eliot Spitzer (at that time) the Governor of New York was caught in a scandal over his involvement in a sex ring. I commend her for having stood by him in public while the saga played out up to the point of him resigning from office. It was initially believed that Silda took the stance she did because she was not aware of the extent of the government's investigation that led to the disclosure of Eliot's trysts. A lot of people thought her mad, including myself, for having stuck with him through the so very public humiliation. I'd have divorced the sob even before he could have said "I'm sorry. It really didn't mean anything!"

What baffles me even more is her accepting the blame for his behavior. She's a high-powered woman herself. A former corporate lawyer turned philanthropist. I'm not your bra burning feminist, but hell, I'm most certainly not from the school where I think woman are solely placed on earth to take care of their spouses needs either. And should we fail them it is only right and fair that they seek it else where. Oh puh-liz! This is not the fifties any more.

A long fight has been fought to get away from such molds. So when up-standing women like Silda Spitzer, and even the lady on the radio show, say what they say it annoys me to no end. Each and every adult is responsible for his and her decision especially when it comes to cheating. In this case, Eliot Spitzer was and is an arse. She should have never apologized for being herself. No matter what she would have or could have done is moot; he knew whom he had married and to whom he owed fealty and respect. Guys like him will cheat because that's what they do regardless of how the wife treats him. His ego-trip is power and the opportunity to play the all-powerful male hunter. If there were any justice in her world, he would be apologizing to her for the rest of his days. But hey if Silda Spitzer wants to remain with him so be it, who are we to judge her. But I hope that for her sake she stays because she feels that there is hope and repentance on his part (i have my doubts esp when it is known that he spent $100K on prostitutes over a 2 yr span) and not because she feels guilty she was not much of a wife for not putting it out for him!

As for my women readers who do feel this way, please re-examine your notions. Your spouse cheating on you, is a reflection of himself and most certainly not you.

No Phone Zone

Was I dreaming or did I really see an electronic signboard reading "No Phone Zone" ? My first thought was that OK they made Clara Barton Parkway a no phone zone but then thinking just a little more about it, it didn't make sense. You can't use your cellphone in any case unless its handsfree in DC...hmmmm

One person - Oprah Winfrey.

So this woman doesn't have quite enough power to create a national holiday, and I hope she never will, but some time back she declared April 30th the first national "No Phone Zone" Day and apparently several government agencies are backing the event. The talk show Queen has been advocating against distracted driving (defined as taking your eyes off the road, taking your hands off the wheel or taking your mind off of what you are doing). She began a No Phone Zone pledge which basically one signs and promises not to text or use hand-held phones while driving. What is even more interesting is that 200,000 people have taken the pledge :)

Check this out, research has found that talking on a cell phone while driving quadruples your risk of an accident. Texting (or sending email) on a  phone increases the risk eight times. The dangerous distraction is equivalent to having a blood alcohol level of 0.08 - the definition of drunk driving. Yikes!

Million dollar question now and be honest with yourself. Do you indulge in distracted driving? I do and right about now am feeling a tad bit guilty about it. So I'm signing the pledge and observing Apr 30th. For those interested here is the link to the pledge...think about it...No Phone Zone Pledge

Cheering on Monday

Come sunday evening I'm always stoked to see the number of statuses on monday blues. So i'm dedicating this post to the underdog, Monday :)

C'mon just think about it. Everyday of the week has some good conoctation to it but monday...

Tuesday - it's like a thank god it's friday only difference is that it's said "thank god it's tuesday, means monday is over with already!"
Wednesday - "yeah! it's mid week"
Thursday - "just another day before the weekend." A friend told me over the weekend that Thursdays are the new Fridays...hhmmm (but if you work for orgs like mine which practice alternate work schedules, Thursday evenings could very well be the start of your 3 day weekend)
Friday - "TGIF!" (one can literally hear the bells and whistles going off, need i say more?)

So coming back to good 'ole Monday.

Granted it's bliss not to have to fight traffic those two days of the week and yes, for whatever reason traffic is its worse on monday mornings. (I do believe this is a world wide phenomenon.) And yes it's also nice not to hit the snooze button several times over fighting for that extra few mins of sleep at 6am. But once you're up Monday morning, having your first cup of coffee and taking in the headlines for the day, driving into work and at the same time planning your day and possibly your week, doesn't it not make you feel much more rested and alive? Think about it. Give it a minutes thought.

It is said that there are only two kinds of people in the world - there are those who wake up in the morning and say, "Good morning, Lord," and there are those who wake up in the morning and say, "Good Lord, it's morning."

Don't forget one seventh of your life is spent on monday. Kinda funky when you think of it that way eh?

Happy Monday, peeps!