If only it was possible to reach thru the radio and smack the woman who had called in. Aarrggghhhhhh! Her quote and let me give it to you verbatim .. "If the wife wasn't giving it to her husband then yea there is no wrong in him looking for it elsewhere" And she goes on to liken it to being the same as if the wife was not cooking at home then it was fine to go eat elsewhere. Which planet did she drop out of and how in blazes to do you compare eating out at a restaurant and cheating ?!?
Am I fuming? If only you could see the smoke coming out of my ears. What brought this all on? The always engaging DJ who asked his listeners for their opinion on what Silda Spitzer had said (another verbatim quote) "On some level, this is my fault. the wife is supposed to take care of the sex. This is my failing. I wasn't adequate". Good gawd woman!
Her husband, Eliot Spitzer (at that time) the Governor of New York was caught in a scandal over his involvement in a sex ring. I commend her for having stood by him in public while the saga played out up to the point of him resigning from office. It was initially believed that Silda took the stance she did because she was not aware of the extent of the government's investigation that led to the disclosure of Eliot's trysts. A lot of people thought her mad, including myself, for having stuck with him through the so very public humiliation. I'd have divorced the sob even before he could have said "I'm sorry. It really didn't mean anything!"
What baffles me even more is her accepting the blame for his behavior. She's a high-powered woman herself. A former corporate lawyer turned philanthropist. I'm not your bra burning feminist, but hell, I'm most certainly not from the school where I think woman are solely placed on earth to take care of their spouses needs either. And should we fail them it is only right and fair that they seek it else where. Oh puh-liz! This is not the fifties any more.
A long fight has been fought to get away from such molds. So when up-standing women like Silda Spitzer, and even the lady on the radio show, say what they say it annoys me to no end. Each and every adult is responsible for his and her decision especially when it comes to cheating. In this case, Eliot Spitzer was and is an arse. She should have never apologized for being herself. No matter what she would have or could have done is moot; he knew whom he had married and to whom he owed fealty and respect. Guys like him will cheat because that's what they do regardless of how the wife treats him. His ego-trip is power and the opportunity to play the all-powerful male hunter. If there were any justice in her world, he would be apologizing to her for the rest of his days. But hey if Silda Spitzer wants to remain with him so be it, who are we to judge her. But I hope that for her sake she stays because she feels that there is hope and repentance on his part (i have my doubts esp when it is known that he spent $100K on prostitutes over a 2 yr span) and not because she feels guilty she was not much of a wife for not putting it out for him!
As for my women readers who do feel this way, please re-examine your notions. Your spouse cheating on you, is a reflection of himself and most certainly not you.
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